Johari windows

[tamaranth]

The site is overloaded and thus unavailable, so I can't tell people what I think of them. Some of you may be grateful <g>

I'm intrigued, though. Why do you want to know what people think of you? My initial reaction was more or less Dracula-confronted-with-garlic. (Memo to self: put the pasta sauce on.) I may give it a go, if the site returns, because it's often interesting to confront things that provoke that sort of response. But generally: ewww.

Comments

[lj_stowaway]

"My initial reaction was more or less Dracula-confronted-with-garlic."

Hee! Mine, too.

But it's all positives. You click on words from a list - you get to choose 5 or 6 - and there's not a real negative amongst them ('self-conscious' is on the list, but nothing stronger).

[surliminal.livejournal.com]

Tense is there. But I agree - there should be more negative words.

[lj_stowaway]

Oh, I forgot 'tense', you're right. But still, nearly all positive and none are really harsh.

[tamaranth.livejournal.com]

All positives? Ah well, no use to me then <g> I don't think there's anyone in Real Life that I feel unqualified Positive Things for, and I'm sure they'd say the same re me!

[lamentables.livejournal.com]

I didn't think ewwww, but where I am right now I'm quite content with the way I feel about myself and don't really care what other people think - I'm unlikely to change in response, and I don't need affirmation of dubious sincerity/meaning.

Also, I'm not convinced of the value when the choices are so limited and all positive.

[tamaranth.livejournal.com]

I have a modified version of the same stance: I suspect there are people who don't think well of me, but they're wrong <g>

If the choices are all positive traits, it feels rather like fishing for compliments. I'd be surprised if anyone felt that the only words they'd pick to describe me were positive ones: surprised, and actually rather uncomfortable, 'cause that's not how humans work.

[yonmei.livejournal.com]

It wouldn't be interesting to me if it were just one person. What's interesting to me is massed responses.

[tamaranth.livejournal.com]

given the fairly limited choices (as reported here) one would expect some pattern to emerge. I'd actually rather ask people to pick three words at random. Except, not.

[yonmei.livejournal.com]

Actually, asking people to pick three words at random sounds quite interesting to me.

What really scares me is the meme that some of my friends-list have done: switch off IP-logging and invite people to post anonymous comments.

[surliminal.livejournal.com]

Oh I desperately want to know. It's the same impules that makes you want to sneak a look at FO posts or read people's txts - you want to know what people REALLY think of you. In the end I'd really like to be telepathic.
And yes I know what I'd hear would probably hurt like mad. It's weird.

[tamaranth.livejournal.com]

I understand the impulse, but generally I get enough Painful Honesty without needing telepathy! In fact I sometimes wish that people around me would be less obvious about their feelings ...

I suspect that at least some of my friends would require a more, shall we say, balanced selection of words ('neurotic', 'stressy') to describe me!

[damned-colonial.livejournal.com]

Yeah, me too. "Instense", "intimidating", "opinionated", etc. There's no *use* to the thing if it's only the comfortable words, but then again, people I trust better than random LJ readers have given me enough of an idea of how I present that I don't really care to use a stupid web toy for it.

[pigeonhed.livejournal.com]

I haven't done the Johari thing in part* because I really don't think I could accurately do the bit where I define myself at the moment. It would probably be all negatives, some of them extreme and whilst I don't quite believe I am like that all the time I can't work out what I am like the rest of the time.

Did that make any sense?

*the other part being one of those negatives: I'm lazy, or at least couldn't get motivated enough.

[damned-colonial.livejournal.com]

Yeah, the thing looks horrible to me too. I clicked over there one time and it's missing any adjectives that would even make it interesting to me. And the lack of anonymity of responses is weird. As it stands it looks like some sort of warm fuzzy generator, and it squicks me.

[marypcb.livejournal.com]

there's a 'diss me' version at http://kevan.org/nohari ;-)

[tamaranth.livejournal.com]

Many of the people I know don't need a website to diss me!

I'd be more interested if there were a version that mixed positives and negatives. But the 'positives' one feels like fishing for compliments, and the 'negatives' like asking for trouble <g>